Building your life can be confusing, and so many of us in our twenties and thirties are really feeling it. Whether we find ourselves working a job that we didn’t expect, having to move back in with our parents, ending a long-term relationship or reexamining what our “purpose” is all together, we have to remember that being unsure about the future is a rite of passage. When we find ourselves in this space of unsureness and restlessness, it can seem like everyone is thriving in careers and lives that they wanted, and can leave us feeling more inadequate, and more confused about what to do with our lives. These negative feelings can be so hard to shake, but they won’t last forever.
We came up with a few tips to help you move out of this experience, and into fulfillment, joy, and satisfaction. because while a quarter life crisis can signal the beginning of a difficult period, it can also be the start to constructive change and help you take back control of you life.
If you feel like you aren’t anywhere near the classic ‘milestones’ of where your life “should” be (e.g., owning a home, a car, working the perfect job, etc.), this is for you.
This experience is universal. It might seem like everyone you know has it together but take the time to reconnect with a friend or look online for support. You’ll see that so many others are having similar experiences of not knowing what they’re doing with their life. We hope you can find comfort in the commonness of this struggle.
Set a career vision. Write about how you see your journey through learning, work, and life. What excites you? What do you find yourself daydreaming about? What are your wildest dreams? Brainstorm things that you love doing and things that you know you’re good at. If you can’t think of anything, ask a friend.
Get out of your head and into the world. Exploring outside options like volunteering, networking, and community activities can really help you gain new perspectives. Notice what sparks inspiration, what energizes you, and what is needed in the world. This process should help bring you some clarity about what your passions are.
Everyone is on a different path. The expectations we tell ourselves and the expectations young people are told to aspire to do aren’t reality. Focus on the things that truly matter: Your mental and physical health, relationships, hobbies. Move from there. No matter where you are in life you have the option to start new, explore, and evolve. Set goals for yourself that are attainable and realistic for you and your situation.
The pressure is real in our twenties. Work hard, be a good partner, have loads of friends, have a beautiful, aesthetically pleasing home at all times, blah blah blah. It’s a lot! And with the added pressure of social media, it can really exacerbate the feeling of not having it together. Remember, social media is used by most of us as a “highlight reel” for how we want to be perceived by other people. You have permission to unfriend/unfollow accounts that make you feel bad. Follow accounts that inspire you, that bring you joy and fuel your passions. It is possible to find empowerment in your feed!
Adulting is hard! But hey, we’re so glad you’re still here. Your life is a celebration and your productivity and achievements don’t define your worth, you do. You deserve to feel proud of yourself, you deserve to be happy and stable, and you deserve to live authentically. We hope this experience can give you a deeper understanding of yourself, who you want to be, and what’s important to you in this life.
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Nov 17, 2021
Nov 17, 2021
Stress is a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances. It is the body’s physical response to a real or perceived threat, demand, or danger.
Everyone experiences stress at different levels. Even when the same stressors are present, our experiences can be different. Certain groups experience higher levels of stress, for example, communities of color, LGBTQIA+, women, and parents.
Stress isn’t always harmful. For example, think about the motivation you feel to study for your next exam, or the urge to make a to-do list on a Sunday. These are positive ways that stress can help you focus and complete tasks. But when stress is frequent and intense, it can affect your overall health, resulting in a reduced quality of life.
This is why we want to help you get to the root cause of your stress, understand the ays it manifests for you, and learn preventative tools for coping with stress. Because you deserve a healthy, happy life.
Nov 17, 2021